Heather is feeling very proud - both of her children graduated at the top of the home-school class where they are the only students. They also won all of the academic and sports awards. It is a very exciting time for Heather. 

But it is short-lived, because in this episode she climbs on her soapbox and gives us a piece of her mind about wearing masks. To wear a mask or not wear a mask? MYOB!

The real topic of discussion today is about what happens when dual faith - or lack of it, or ambivalence about it - collides. From relationships to parenting, the girls discuss the potential pitfalls of who believes what, and why, and what to tell the kids.
For your reading pleasure.... bonus points if you can find the typo!
https://ideas.time.com/2013/11/06/the-case-for-raising-your-child-with-two-religions/

https://www.livingfacts.org/en/articles/2019/one-family-two-faiths

https://www.nytimes.com/1988/08/18/garden/in-dual-faith-families-children-sturggle-for-a-spiritual-home.html

https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/04/parenting-advice-on-a-family-with-one-churchgoing-parent-and-one-who-dislikes-organized-religion.html

How to Do Life is now on Patreon. Hop over to subscribe for fun behind the scenes things and conversations. https://www.patreon.com/chryssyandheather?fan_landing=true

Chryssy is watching The Big Flower Fight. You should watch it, too. Check it out on Netflix, since Netflix is the only thing humans do these days.

The big topic today, though, is pronouns. We’re talking about gender and what it would be like if we didn’t “feel” like the gender we are. We’re talking about mental illness and acceptance and what maybe we shouldn’t accept.

We visit mypronouns.org to try to make sense of some things and also read up on aromantic and asexual identifiers here https://identitiesandorientations.weebly.com/asexual.html

It’s safe to say Chryssy and Heather really don’t understand this topic. But we’re trying, and that’s what it’s all about. Homework this week is to dive into a topic that you don’t know much about, maybe even something that makes you a little uncomfortable, and just see what you can learn about yourself and your own tolerance levels.
 
Until next time.

Every 10th episode, the girls get the "dude" perspective on the last 9 shows from our mansplaining pal Brian.

Today we recap how dads should treat the boyfriend, what it means to be an involved parent on social media, and who pays for a date.

Brian explains what a two-top table is, just in case anyone was unclear that this is a seating arrangement for two people.

Heather also wants to know about returning engagement rings, and we learn some women give back family heirlooms while others feel no obligation to do so.

Chryssy give Heather a chance to weigh in on a wild topic she missed out on discussing on Not Quite Therapy. Tune in to find out what is was.

If you missed any of the first nine episodes of the season, this is the nutshell version. Go back and listen to them, and catch up on side commentary here.

Until next time.....

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Heather isn't get anything done anymore, and it's all because of an elephant. She's been sucked into Africam.com, where she watches wildlife in South Africa live their daily lives around the watering hole, completely unaware of COVID-19, quarantine, or Carole Baskin. You can check it out, too, at www.africam.com. It's a great distraction from whatever you're procrastinating about.


Watching wildlife has got Heather thinking about real-life survival stories, like this one about what happened when six kids were shipwrecked on a Pacific island for over a year, like a scene out of Lord of the Flies. But with a better ending.

https://www.theguardian.com/books/2020/may/09/the-real-lord-of-the-flies-what-happened-when-six-boys-were-shipwrecked-for-15-months

Humans are funny when they have to get creative and save their sanity, and that leads to some of Heather's favorite new words. She enjoys quizzing Chryssy about the meaning of words like quarantini, doomschooling, and covidiots, which makes Chryssy feel a little coronallusional and she wants to change the subject.


So we do. And we talk about possibly the most disgusting combination of words since, well, never mind. Anyhoo, it's skin hunger. We're sorry. It had to be done. Read more here, or better yet, listen to this episode.


https://www.insidehook.com/daily_brief/health-and-fitness/skin-hunger-social-distancing
https://www.wired.co.uk/article/skin-hunger-coronavirus-human-touch

Today’s show features commentary about murder hornets from our resident beekeeper and past guest Cameron Ulrich. Visit Capitalcityhoney.com to get some of her yummy, delightful, wonderful honey and other fun stuff. She provided us with this AWESOME video of bees killing a murder hornet. https://www.sbnation.com/2020/5/5/21248563/watch-murder-hornets-killed-by-bees

We discuss a beautifully written article in which an older woman discusses her feelings in these Covid times. You can access it here. https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2020/05/02/elderly-woman-coronavirus-lonely-expendable/?arc404=true

Chryssy gives us a WAY over the top mama bear story, and then highly recommends you download the app Marco Polo. Big shout out to Jessi at MC for the most amazing customer support ever.

We wrap up with talking about deception online, and the questionable ethics of some. Here’s a link to a story that will really make you think about the truth or lack thereof in what you see and read. Plus, it features Carole Baskin. 
https://mashable.com/video/carole-baskin-youtube-prank-jimmy-fallon-interview/?utm_campaign=mash-com-tw-main-link&utm_medium=twitter&utm_source=social&utm_content=entertainment

Until next time!

In this episode, recorded on the eleventy-billionth day of COVID quarantine, Heather need some Vitamin Sea. Big time. Just saying.

But since there is work to be done, let's get into it. Should she answer an ad that she noticed on Facebook, seeking out new FB friends? At what point is it okay to delete the friends you have and start over? 

Which begs the question.... how do you know if you are the kind of person worth being friends with? Heather wonders: what makes someone good or bad? Can it be known with just one simple test? 

Are You a Good Person? Find out here - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/valley-girl-brain/201609/how-know-if-you-are-good-person

What Makes Someone Toxic? https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/heres-how-to-tell-if-someone-is-a-toxic-person-in-first-5-minutes.html

Which one are you? Listen and learn, friends. Listen and learn. 

​The “How To Do” family is growing, and we can’t wait for you to hear our latest offering. “Not Quite Therapy,” featuring Chryssy and (Hot) Brian begins airing next Tuesday. The pair will be talking about divorce, dating, and parenting. It’s gonna be AWESOME.
 
Chryssy suggests, if you’re feeling a little down, that you watch John Krasinski’s Some Good News. He’s don’t the work of finding some joy for us, and we appreciate it. Latest episode here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IweS2CPSnbI
 
We have a spirited discussion about PPP loans and survival of the fittest. Here’s the article that sparked the conversation - https://www.forbes.com/sites/sarahhansen/2020/04/23/ruths-chris-steak-house-returns-20-million-ppp-loan-as-treasury-issues-new-guidance/#46a3d10a6ef7
 
Chryssy reminds us that Mother’s Day is coming, and that it’s not a joyous day for everyone. She wrote an article about it last year, and offers it to you here - https://medium.com/@chryssymoor/dead-moms-club-65a953f851a0
 
Last but not least, we talk about weight loss surgery, but more importantly about the internal healing and learning to ask for help that make real personal change possible. Here’s a 5 years ago v. now pic of Chryssy. Same hat!

​Heather opens this episode with a bit of an ode to parents - the ones who are hosting socially-distanced graduation parties in the yard, the ones who are trying to entertain the little ones when all of the bouncy houses are closed, and all of the ones in between. 

She tries to remind us that there is still a lot to celebrate, and recommends checking out this 3-minute video when you need to connect with your trailblazer self. Or even if you don't. http://www.trendingly.com/pacific-crest-trail?fbclid=IwAR3wa8T1_KcwExmI6BSzqYMDvpcaKcNZurIPwK9pW7kSAXdeeXdDWy1syKA
Thanks Halfway Anywhere travel blog for the inspiration!   https://www.halfwayanywhere.com/ 


And, let's be honest, parenting during quarantine (or as H calls it, "QP") ain't for sissies. Kids are getting REAL. And when that happens, Heather wonders... what are your kids' manners like? What manners do you expect? What are your hospitality pet peeves? They get into it. 

​Heather opens this show by knocking Chryssy off guard right away with a pop quiz. What do Denmark, Germany, New Zealand, Iceland, and Taiwan have in common? The answer may just be the solution to our current global situation. 

Then Heather has some advice for how to pass the time during quarantine with two recommendations for video games, which she has not actually played but have observed and is now a semi-expert about.

In a True Confession, Heather reveals what item missing from her kitchen during quarantine finally sent her into the outside world, and the sheepish satisfaction she gained from a purchase from our local small business friend Liz at Lucky and Charmed for her hand-made face masks. We think everyone should order one!

And then Heather has the big questions - are you a good tipper? The girls and Producer Jon discuss the new rules for tipping, from fancy resorts to coffee to street musicians and everything in between. Are you tipping enough? Do you always tip? When do you not tip? We've got it figured out - kind of.